Tom Coates. This may sound really dumb and it might be one of those moments when everyone turns around to look at the weird bloke with the dodgy ideas, but I reckon a good proportion of 'premature ejaculation' is actually just men being quite happy about how long it takes them to sort themselves out being made to feel guilty by unsatisfied women... Almost never hear a man say "god what a bad orgasm"... [OriginalPost 12/17/2002]

Tom, my experience shows that there are a lot of men who consider premature ejaculation a problem. This is a concern I never hear from women. Interestingly enough women are usually more concerned with condoms being too small.

Yes all orgasms are good but some are better than others. My experience has shown that men who learn some degree of control tend to express a better appreciation of them. And consequently many men buy these new types of condoms.

Smith. I am with a guy he wants sex but i am frightened that i am going to fall pregenent with him i am not on the pill and have nerver had sex. He has planed a romantic holiday away for us in Feb dose it matter when i go on the pill or is a condom safe for us to use [OriginalPost 07/04/2002]

Everything you say here is concerned with what he wants. What do you want?

If you were to ask my advice, which I know you haven't, I would not sleep with the guy. If you are frightened of the situation then you are not ready to lose your virginity. Should you choose to lose your virginity in a situation without fear you will no doubt have a much better experience than one which brings up fear in you.

You must be on the pill for at least 3 months before it starts to give you full prophylactic protection. And the pill will do nothing whatsoever about sexually transmitted infections.

Unless you are marrying this fellow you shouldn't have sex with him unless you are both tested for STDs and have been fully educated in the risks you are taking.

If you are considering becoming sexually active you should definately approach your ob/gyn for a check up and access to professional advice.

Don't wait until it is too late. Do it now and don't let your boyfriend pressure you into making decisions before it is time. If he loves you he will want you to feel comfortable about all the decisions you make between the two of you.

Hope this helps.

1/19/03:11:56:39 PM PST    comment

I've been thinking a lot about this myself. The use of both pro-choice & pro-life is very disingenuous. The choices inherent in abortion begin in the bedroom long before talk of abortion. Maxine does a good job of refocusing the issue away from the trash words and empty phrases. Bravo!

1/19/03:5:03:16 PM PST    comment