Lesbian Safer Sex

Are Lesbians At Risk for Contracting HIV from Each Other?

Yes!! There have cases reported since the mid 1980's which indicate that women are transmitting HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) to each other. Despite these reports the Federal Government's Center for Disease Control (CDC) does not include female to female transmission in its AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome) reports. Many lesbians mistakenly believe that they are not at risk. HIV is transmitted when blood, vaginal fluids, breast milk or semen from an HIV infected person enters your blood stream.

Lesbians can be infected with HIV through having unsafe sex (with women or men), donor insemination, sharing injectable drug works, piercing, tattooing and blood transfusions.

Because we do know how HIV is transmitted we can define some guidelines for safer sex and explain which risky sexual behaviors are potentially risky.

BE AWARE: Drug or alchohol use impairs judgement in many areas including practicing safer sex.

Whether a sexual behavior is safe or unsafe depends on the chances of your partner's bodily fluids coming in contact with your blood.

  • Wet kissing is safer unless either of you have a sore or cut in your mouth or bleeding gums. After you brush your teeth or floss, wait a half an hour before kissing.

  • Touching your lover's breast, massage, masturbation and body to body rubbing are safer--as long as there is no blood or breat milk exchanged.

  • Sores or cuts on the fingers, mouth or vagina of either partner can increase risk during vaginal and anal contact. Using a glove can prevent a way for the virus to get into your blood stream.

  • Unprotected oral sex is risky, especially when your partner has her period or a vaginal infection. To make it safer, cover her genital area (vulva) with a latex dam (also known as a dental dam) or you can cut open a condom to make a barrier. If a woman is infected, her menstrual blood, vaginal secretions and ejaculate will have the virus in it. HIV has been found in these fluids.

  • Sex toys are safer when used by yourself, but should not be shared without a new condom being put on them.

  • S&M or rough sex is safer if there is no blood involved. If you are piercing each other clean the needle with bleach. In shaving use separate razors.

Lesbian Safer Sex Guidelines


(Touching Yourself)
Vibrators or other sex toys (Not shared)
Dry Kissing
Body To Body Rubbing or "Tribadism"

when fluids are not involved


Wet (French) Kissing
Shared hand & genital contact with a barrier

such as a fingercot, glove, or latex dam
(a square piece of latex)
Cunnilingus (Oral-Genital contact)
using a barrier
Fisting using a barrier


Shared hand, finger & genital contact
with cuts or sores
Cunnilingus (Oral or Tongue to genital contact)
without a barrier


Cunnilingus without a barrier during menstruation
Femal or male ejaculate in the mouth, vagina or anus
Rimming without a barrier
Fisting without a barrier such as a glove
Sharing sex toys without a barrier
Sharing needles of any kind, i.e.:

to shoot drugs, pierce or tattoo the skin

Drugs, Needles & HIV

If you inject drugs, don't share your equipment ("kit" or "works"). If you have to share, clean the equipment between use by flushing the syringe and needle with bleach and water, then flush it with clean uncontaminated clear water.

If You Are Considering Pregnancy

If you have sex with a man or use donated sperm, make sure he has two HIV tests six months apart and tested negative both times. The first test should be six months after his last possible exposure to HIV. The donor must have no possible exposure to HIV between his last test and donation. All licensed sperm banks test their donors carefully and test the sperm twice.

Sex with Men

If you have sex with a man, the man must wear a condom for vaginal and anal intercourse. Additionally, if you engage in oral sex, it is necessary that a man wear a condom. HIV is in semen and pre-ejaculate.

Sex with a sex doll

If you have sex with a sex doll you do not need to wear a condom, although the use of condoms is sometimes cited in the literature, this is only to maintain the rubber. Having sex with a sex doll is safe and easy, without any fear of pregnancy or disease. Find out more here.